From everywhere I hear how hard our mums had it, how they had to wash nappies, cook for the whole family, there was no internet, mobiles, they didn't have the information and the kind of support we have today... buuut, did they really have it harder? Perhaps it is just a matter of perspective, because in my opinion those "down-to-earth" existential problems, such as what and with what money to cook, wash, iron etc. keep us firmly on the ground and in our senses. Put simply, physical strain is better than mental strain.
This weekend my parents were over and we also discussed this topic. In today's world everything seems "easy" to us. Nappies are disposable, the washing machine does the washing, the dryer dries it straight away, lunch is available in any restaurant and so mums on maternity leave are left with a heap of time. But for what? Many spend it in the worst possible way - on the internet. There you learn everything, especially what you don't want to. How long a "normal" baby sleeps, when it should sleep through the night, how much it cries, how it cries, (you are supposedly meant to recognise what it wants by the type of cry...oh, my god! 
), why you must not vaccinate, why it is better to avoid even gluten, lactose, nuts, honey, mushrooms and not only children, breastfeeding mothers are also forbidden about a million things... when to breastfeed, how much and how, of course. Well, simply a whole science! And so if you wanted a moment of peace, an internet full of wisdom won't allow it. And so we are mentally burdened, obsessing over whether we are good enough, whether our child is content enough etc. I don't know, but I am not sure whether I am not, after all, better off at the stove than at the PC! 
And so after an incredible struggle on maternity leave with Matias, as he is extra special demanding, and finding out all the available info and precautions, I chose the opposite approach and I don't want to know anything. I do everything intuitively, I use absolutely nothing, no breast pump, no breathing monitor, no writing things down, simply nothing. After all, children don't want and don't need anything but a contented mum. Little Bruno sleeps with me, feeds whenever he wants and as much as he wants. No routine. And you know what? It is easier for me and I have more time with two children than when I was with one. Because simple does not always mean easier!
Ps: For the beautiful snapshots I thank my mum and my husband, whom I tormented a little with the camera! We finally got out without the kids and so I could wear something a bit more cultured. I am wearing a super comfortable ZARA shirt dress, Prada glasses, espadrilles from Topankovo.sk and a Marc Jacobs handbag.
